I spent some time in the bookstore yesterday – some much needed time out from the house.
I started reading the Gifted Adult: A revolutionary Guide to Liberating the Everyday Genius by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen. Giftedness has been on my mind a lot lately (well, a lot has been on my mind, and this is one of many topics). I know my dd is gifted, and she’s only in Kindergarten. Learning is becoming effortless for her. She is advancing at a pretty quick rate. She just started reading recently, but she is already reading more complex things than she reading just 5 months ago. I don’t think she’s exceptionally gifted, not by a long shot, but she definitely has lots of potential.
I know dh is gifted, and so am I. Not profoundly gifted, maybe not even moderately gifted, maybe only mildly gifted (as we haven’t been given formal IQ tests). But academic giftedness is only one side of the coin, and the only one measured by current test procedures. Even Marilyn vos Savant, known in the Guinness Book of World records for having the Highest IQ recorded (228), is aware that typical IQ tests don’t really reflect a person’s complete gifted profile, nor does it even reflect accurately a person’s potential.
I found some interesting things about giftedness in Jacobsen’s book.
- Most gifted people don’t know they are gifted.
- Being gifted doesn’t mean your life is automatically better.
- It has nothing to do with personality.
- You can be gifted and yet still have been an underachiever.
- Just because you are gifted doesn’t mean you know exactly what you want and how to get there.
- Just because you are gifted, doesn’t mean you will achieve great things early on.
And on a lighter note, I’m going to add my own:
- Being gifted doesn’t always mean you catch your mistakes when blogging.
Other things I’ve picked up out of it is that if you’ve ever felt out of place, different, misunderstood, oversensitive, emotional, keenly observant, perceptive, and feel a sense of urgency, drive, or intensity to do something meaningful with your life, you are probably gifted.
Also, if you haven’t realized your potential it’s because you haven’t been able to accept and access your gifts – in essence, you’ve manage to blend in by adapting to the standards of others, rather than by living by the beat of your own drum.
There are many unrecognized and underdeveloped Gifteds out there. Maybe instead of getting the recognition for that Giftedness, you were medicated instead, to “normalize” your behaviors and thought patterns. It’s a very definite possibility.
And even if you have a disability, it doesn’t remove the possibility that you can be gifted too. It’s called being twice exceptional, or 2E in some discussion groups.
I will probably write more on this subject as well. But if you think you may be one of the 20 million adults who are gifted and you may not even know it. Pick up this book or scan the internet for the subject of giftedness. And don’t be discouraged about IQ. That is not the definitive measure of giftedness.
And if you can’t pick your path, don’t give up hope. There is some great advice in the book, I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was: How to Discover What You Really Want and How to Get It, by Barbara Sher.
It’s even great for when you want to do everything, but can’t get to it all at once.